2013 ..That was fast !!!

The New Year is going to be upon us in less than 10 hours and it's going to be the time for
 many people examine themselves with questions like, “What will the next twelve months hold in
store for me, my loved ones, the world? What could I do to become a better person? Can I Achieve what I want ?Let it be anything but the most important thing is to ensure that whatever that we want to achieve is vital & important for our life. Above all , we also need to ensure our resolutions will not fall by the wayside by the end of January :-)

Today, for me I just want to reflect some aspects of my  2013. 2013 was definitely an awesome and  great year for all of us, Yes it is for sure because it would have taught us at least one lesson which strike us not to repeat some mistakes that we used to do. That one lesson can be a lesson for life or even lesson for the season. The ultimate part is, it taught us something. This mean life has given a chance to learn something and we a better in our way.That's what i meant by 2013 was awesome!

I always had some good resolutions all this while but it was just another ordinary year  where my resolutions remained resolutions and another new year is already here . Below are just my very own lessons learned  and I would be glad if there is something that you can pick up from them

PRIORITY OF LIFE

Life is all about having priority. All of us are busy and we have own tasks/objectives/targets to do 
where it can mean nothing to others.This is something very easy to understand but hard to be accepted .When people don't seems to respect our priority, it hurts us but another reminder comes along , we need to understand the priority of others.Failing to understand this  will raise our expectations  and expectations are not met , we tend to blame world around us.Respect peoples priority and eventually our priority will be respected. Let 2013 be the last time we fail to differentiate our & other priorities.Understanding this priority will definitely make our 2014 a better year for us

STAYING POSITIVE

Recently a friend of mine posted in Facebook on being neutral where we do not need to be extremely happy or sad   but  its better not to be inclined to either one side, sad or happy, be in the middle instead -neutral. I agree to this partially  but what I have learned this year 2013  is to stay positive. Miss universe 2005 , Natalie Glebova in her final question said  her most challenging thing in her life to try try to stay positive and I agree or i shall say AGREE.This is not something new for all of us. Determine to be positive  and just see the bright side of things and trying to walk the talk but after few days it just like "hot hot chicken shit" back to the normal life full of negative energy and life of complaining is very common.The one and only reason why this never become practical for most of us is thing did not turnout in the way we want .However there is saying , if things do not happen according to our wish then , God / Universe have something better inn store for us . Putting this aside , choose to see the positive sides only makes us feel good and eventually feel better  as there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Let the light is found in 2014.

GRATITUDE

The word "Thank you" hold a great power and is the best way of conveying out gratitude to anyone at anytime but How many times we have said  it? Thank you for our daily food , when we reach a location safely , something that we plan happened accordingly , our loved ones smile at us for no reason , someone along the way made us smile on our rough day , and above all  when we opened our eyes every morning to witness another brand new day. Most of the time things are taken for granted .
 Eckhart Tolle in his book A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose says  Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance and I'm totally agree with that  and it is one of the best lesson learned throughout 2013.Thank you is not just a mere way of saying I appreciate what you have given me  but it hold a majestic  meaning where I truly appreciate what I have received  and I'm ready to receive more of it in abundance . May we continue to receive abundance in 2014

I found the following few quotes which are very Apt as we nearing 2014  and full with spirit to implement new year resolution

• Be the change you wish to see in the world - Gandhi

• Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness.Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts.  - Henri Frederic Amiel

• Talking about our problem is our greatest addiction . Break the Habit . Talk bout your joys - Rita Schiano

• Worrying will never change the outcome

• You are a victim of your own mind 

• Choosing to be positive e and having grateful attitude is going to determine how you are going to live your live - Joel Osteen

• H.O.P.E - Hold on pain ends

These are just some of the insights based on what  I faced in 2013 along with many other issues. As many people  are ready with their resolution , I'm ready with mine too and determined I am to fulfill them , YES I WILL  & Best wishes to all you who is reading this.

Happy New year 2014 peeps !!

2013 goes on ..

It has been a looong gap i must say .But it is better to be late than never , right ? Of course

This cant be applied all the time :-)

But why again Blogging ?

This would be the best way to let out the feelings and emotions that booked deep down the heart and mind. This would be one of the most effective ways to overcome loneliness  as well as good platform  to talk to own self

2013 has been a fabulous year so far, yes. It is.

But why???

This is one year which actually taught me about life and has been a great teacher so far. It did remind me of my real challenges and who am I in real. Additionally 2013 actually taught me to see life in a different perspectives.

1. My real good friendships with some of my friends have deteriorated. This would be one of the major change in my life, I’m as shaken, emotionally challenged but life goes on. All have their own reason but we can’t question that, Priority do works and we can’t questions them. A simple solution is to stay positive and there should not be any space in mind to think bad about anyone

2. As long we don't love what we are doing, things can never turn out well

3. The people we mix with & books we read determine where we will be in the next 5 years

4. Selfish people are everywhere, it can be painful, hurting but we need remember it is part of the daily routine, part of our daily lesson, I have been selfish as well at times

5. It is important to grow in maturity from day to day  because getting better from day to day is a purpose of life

6. Always be able to differentiate between urgent and important .

7. Just because there is a reason to be unhappy, doesn’t men that character good characters 

    need to be forgotten 

8. Be hopeful , better days are yet to come 

9. Hope & expectations - play well around it 

10. It is important to be grateful and be positive about life even during difficult moments

11. It is not easy to follow No. 10

but just like the concept of Yin Yang , 2013 is a balanced as well and the year also  promised me great things .

2013 has taught me

• To be a fighter in life
• To stay positive
• To stay healthy - need to look into this option more seriously
• To work on financial intelligence
• That there are plenty of opportunities - pick it accordingly
• That it is important to dream big
• To recognize my real well wishers

I’m grateful this year has been a good to me. I have 61 days to make this year even a greater one for me.I know i have been  a guy with good qualities but I often let my negative feelings to overshadow  the good ones.A lot of my effort  and actions are not completed yet  and some left half way

  and that  sounds  like a reminder that I need to continue to do for the next 61 days..

To be continued ............

It's time for 2013

Happy new year peeps :-)
2013 is here ... 9 days have passed . Looking back at my 2012 journey ...
It was a pretty good year  with a lot of memories  & lessons. Too many things .. too many memories  but life goes on..

Health
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It  was pretty  good year . As i checked , there was total of 3.5 days of Mc  and I am pretty sure this was quite good result.Mostly it was fever and also flu . The main reason for this was my food intake as well as amount of ice water that went in down the esofagus:-)

Another major thing  learn t was "If you are sick , don't force yourself to go to office. Health is the best asset we can have  and employers will not pity on us  or even give credit to us just because we are working with our unhealthy body . I iwll follow this strictly  and  no more giving in for this.
Health also comprises of mental health which i failed badly throughout 2012. I was at my worst in this part of health  and thank God, towards the end of year , i was awakened  and it was not too late to
fill my self with positive thoughts

2013 - To be healthy  throughout the year  and to ensure that I will have healthy food and  hopefully I will not spend my money at any clinic. That is my ultimate goal. Hopefully I can take this up as a challenge and yeah I need to be positive  because that will be the best medicine for person  and how can I miss that !!!

Friends
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This was another part which made my life in 2012 colorful. Many of  them got married and I'm truly happy  for each and everyone of them .Starting from January (Chithra + mugi)...,May  ( Yip, Shantene),June ( Hoshini , Sheela akka & Nelson ne),August ( Sandya),September (maran sathya),October ( Padmini),november ( Nur Hafizah, Kogulakrishnan),Decemeber ( Viji , Sumathi, Minoo) Wishing them a great life ahead:-)

I also got to know few people whom I became close with . Truly thankful to God for that .
This was another year  where gap was created with some of my friends. This gap was not intentional but  it was created just like that as a result of lack of communication and that was one best lesson i learnt on the importance of keeping in touch with friends. Looking at friends circle ,the number has increased with some real good peeople in it .School friends, church friends, Office friends, Uni friends,  special friens and list goes on. Dear God, Thank you for giving me blessings through my friends


Family
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When it comes to family , no one else but my Mom and Dad. Quite a good year. A lot of arguments , tears , scoldings  and it happens all the time.No matter what  happens, mom and dad, they have been by my side all the time. However , this year,  it is extra important where parents start to worry about my future and it's not that I'm complaining  but it just another way of parents showing their concenr on us.The maturity level for all 3 of us  definitely have gone up   and  the level of sensitive has increased as well. So it's time to take note this  and we never realised that  parenst are growing old  and now it is all up to me.



2013 resolution

A lot resolutions are in place.The courage to make this resolutions to become through is needed all the time and again its all depends on me to work on them. Making resolutions is very easy but making then reality is definitely not an easy job.but with the grace of God, blessings of parents I know this year will be a great one for me :-) ALL IS WELL for all of us :-)

IM NOT HERE TO PLEASE ANYONE!!!!

I'm not here to please anyone !!!

As i look again the phrase.. wonder what it exactly means??It gives few hidden & literal meanings

I'm here not to make anyone happy or does it mean "Do not expect much from me as im not going to be on your side"Can we take it as " I  only can please myself not others!!" ? or sometimes " Don't expect much from me ..im not going to listen to you"
Whatever the meaning can be.. it all depends the environment  or the circle the dialogue is delivered

With friends
I will do what i like .. Don expect me to be on  the same wavelength as you

With working colleagues
"It just about work.. nothing personal.. Don't expect me to make you happy as I only can look after myself

With relatives
"Say whatever you want .. im here to live my life  not yours"

With own self
I only depend on myself.. No reason for me to make others happy !! This is my life"

With community
" I don't need please the people around me. Don bother much "


No matter what, this can be viewed from positive and negative views.We can be ourselves and YES!!! that is the most important in living the life in this world..Yes we need to be original 
not as copy of others. Being original simply means we are strict with our life values as well as our life principals.But that doesn't mean that we can be selfish to the extend we don't respect others as well their feelings.We live in a community where we dependent on each other as humans and the respect is definitely needed. we don't need to please others but we always choose to respect others.Even when we would like to express our stand or opinion,there is always a way of expressing it. Yes we stand firm in our opinion, .. but the way we express our opinion also potray ourselves in many ways

There is nothing wrong to say things out  but  it is very important to know the circumstances of the expression as well as the consequences of it. Remember " I'm not here to please anyone"

Anyone can say this at any point of time and who knows at point we may be the victim of these words.

SOMETIMES IT IS NOT MY PROBLEM .... BUT SOMETIME IT IS !!

Its very strange  where people are judged based on how they look like.. what they wear.. what is their taste like. No one looking at the characters.. or the attitude. It is very heart wrenching when people simply saying things against us  and all that we do is just keep quiet and remain silent.

Yes i am Big ... I am Dark .. but that doesn't give rights for anyone to judge based on my appearance.But if people keep talking about that  that's is not my problem but that is my problem..
Yes i can work to improve my appearance for sure but its not fair for me when people judge me based on my physical. This is me  This is the face eyes, ears, mouth ,body etc that God Blessed me with.I'm grateful for that. Yes due to my eating habits and my laziness , I have grown like this. and yes that is my fault . I can improve on that .but again, people love to judge me based on this. So its ok .. will go through this.

Expectations definitely plays big role in every day's life.It is not easy to expect things  and it is even worse when things that we expect do not turn up as we expect.I cant expect people to stop talking about me  because it is not my problem but it is their problem.I cannot expect to make sure things happen fast and i i need to take things slowly .It is always best to have exectations low and it is better not to say them out.this is simply because we can manage the dissapointments easily  and as time goes we can learn to be stronger

Discipline- This is the basic of everything and OBVIOUSLY I need additional classes on this :-) It is either i take it or drop it... sometimes it is not my problem but sometime definitely it is mine!!

One more side of love

Love is one of the most wonderful feeling that shared by 2 heart which are foreign to one another
It is even more beautiful when the 2 heart just crave for each other  and there is no reason for that. That's absolutely beautiful isn't it .. It is even more amazing when this is the first love from both side.. therefore the bond that is being shared by the hearts are even more pure.. with  lot off expectations love etc

Sometimes its like the two individual are blinded by love.. mixtured.. cultured and cannot be separated. a lot expectations from both end.. a lot of sacrifice for each other... So smallest change in ones behavior is detected immediately and troubleshooting is progressed and this is just symbol of love i would say ..yes  its simply because of love..

Problems may arise in anyway .. and also in unexpected way...reactions.. wrong words.. misunderstanding.. or anything that it can be On the other hand , they cant be any  reason where it cannot be opted out of the mouth for some reason ...this kind of confusion  can lead to disaster at times. at this very critical time.. the reaction of love sometimes turn to be real serious business. the reflection of pain can be in any form ... anger.. unexpected words uttered.. sarcasm..weird reactions.. n of course tears sometimes but all that need to be done is just calm down  and things will slowly rotate off and the good side will slowly take place while the hurting side will fade away.

A short silence.. few heartfelt uttered feelings.. sharing of information... patience.. exchange of love... and things will definitely change... and for sure things will end beautifully with
" i love you baby ... with a reply " me too" after all this is one more side of love.. I LOVE YOU cheers

NO ONE IS PERFECT

What a perception !!!
Sometimes it just make me to wonder if people are just out there and mix around with people
for the appearance one possessed.People are just so heartless and just feel ashamed of one,s appearance.I'm not sure what is so wrong with people who are dark.... so many nick name.. lorry , buffalo,truck and so on!!!!Damn.. is this the right way ? is this the way those morons were brought up by their parents?or is this the attitude that they learn in their moral classes?

What wrong if people are dark? Its not that they want to be dark!!! Its what God has given to them and im sure those dark people are happy with what they have;Some of the famous people are dark !!! Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Ussain Bolt and etc. This is just a few out of hundred of people. So what is the big problem now here peeps?

Next category is Fat / plum people Its very true that Fat is not inherited but also depends on the daily attitude such as food intake.But no matter what . No one have  rights to comment about the size unless you're really care for the person. Even if that is the case, you have the right to say in a polite way . There was once 2 friends bumped into each other after 6 years  and the first question thrown by this one friend to another was " en why u have become SO big???" even without asking hru. I seriously think that is something really bad and wrong way to greet someone.Even , there are "fit" people who feel people who are big in size are not on par with them even to have a photo snap with them Seriously , what is so wrong with this human being????Im not sure which education in the world has taught them that big size people belongs to a community who cannot mix around with others .In addition , being too thin also is a problem where they are recognized as unhealthy people and they are often referred with many nicknames. very sad ....

Next, there is another group of people  who love to make fun of this group of guys and girls who have some extra flesh on their body at certain part ..waist, arm, stomach and etc.Im not sure how to categorize people with such mentality and thinking but definitely not into the group of common sense people.

People are just so obsessed with size and im not sure why. Yes, size matters, we need to take care of our health, proper food diet , proper exercise and this will make us to lead a healthy life style and to remain good size. But proceeding all is the respect that one must show each other. There is no joy by insulting others on their size , colour .. If it is really a sign of concern , put is nice way .. be supportive to them rather than showing off ones' superiority. Even worse is when we insult one purposely knowing that will definitely hurt others.Remember No one is perfect !!! and God treat us the same all the time. It ALL ABOUT US AND  HOW WE ARE TAKING IT !!!