IM NOT HERE TO PLEASE ANYONE!!!!

I'm not here to please anyone !!!

As i look again the phrase.. wonder what it exactly means??It gives few hidden & literal meanings

I'm here not to make anyone happy or does it mean "Do not expect much from me as im not going to be on your side"Can we take it as " I  only can please myself not others!!" ? or sometimes " Don't expect much from me ..im not going to listen to you"
Whatever the meaning can be.. it all depends the environment  or the circle the dialogue is delivered

With friends
I will do what i like .. Don expect me to be on  the same wavelength as you

With working colleagues
"It just about work.. nothing personal.. Don't expect me to make you happy as I only can look after myself

With relatives
"Say whatever you want .. im here to live my life  not yours"

With own self
I only depend on myself.. No reason for me to make others happy !! This is my life"

With community
" I don't need please the people around me. Don bother much "


No matter what, this can be viewed from positive and negative views.We can be ourselves and YES!!! that is the most important in living the life in this world..Yes we need to be original 
not as copy of others. Being original simply means we are strict with our life values as well as our life principals.But that doesn't mean that we can be selfish to the extend we don't respect others as well their feelings.We live in a community where we dependent on each other as humans and the respect is definitely needed. we don't need to please others but we always choose to respect others.Even when we would like to express our stand or opinion,there is always a way of expressing it. Yes we stand firm in our opinion, .. but the way we express our opinion also potray ourselves in many ways

There is nothing wrong to say things out  but  it is very important to know the circumstances of the expression as well as the consequences of it. Remember " I'm not here to please anyone"

Anyone can say this at any point of time and who knows at point we may be the victim of these words.

SOMETIMES IT IS NOT MY PROBLEM .... BUT SOMETIME IT IS !!

Its very strange  where people are judged based on how they look like.. what they wear.. what is their taste like. No one looking at the characters.. or the attitude. It is very heart wrenching when people simply saying things against us  and all that we do is just keep quiet and remain silent.

Yes i am Big ... I am Dark .. but that doesn't give rights for anyone to judge based on my appearance.But if people keep talking about that  that's is not my problem but that is my problem..
Yes i can work to improve my appearance for sure but its not fair for me when people judge me based on my physical. This is me  This is the face eyes, ears, mouth ,body etc that God Blessed me with.I'm grateful for that. Yes due to my eating habits and my laziness , I have grown like this. and yes that is my fault . I can improve on that .but again, people love to judge me based on this. So its ok .. will go through this.

Expectations definitely plays big role in every day's life.It is not easy to expect things  and it is even worse when things that we expect do not turn up as we expect.I cant expect people to stop talking about me  because it is not my problem but it is their problem.I cannot expect to make sure things happen fast and i i need to take things slowly .It is always best to have exectations low and it is better not to say them out.this is simply because we can manage the dissapointments easily  and as time goes we can learn to be stronger

Discipline- This is the basic of everything and OBVIOUSLY I need additional classes on this :-) It is either i take it or drop it... sometimes it is not my problem but sometime definitely it is mine!!

One more side of love

Love is one of the most wonderful feeling that shared by 2 heart which are foreign to one another
It is even more beautiful when the 2 heart just crave for each other  and there is no reason for that. That's absolutely beautiful isn't it .. It is even more amazing when this is the first love from both side.. therefore the bond that is being shared by the hearts are even more pure.. with  lot off expectations love etc

Sometimes its like the two individual are blinded by love.. mixtured.. cultured and cannot be separated. a lot expectations from both end.. a lot of sacrifice for each other... So smallest change in ones behavior is detected immediately and troubleshooting is progressed and this is just symbol of love i would say ..yes  its simply because of love..

Problems may arise in anyway .. and also in unexpected way...reactions.. wrong words.. misunderstanding.. or anything that it can be On the other hand , they cant be any  reason where it cannot be opted out of the mouth for some reason ...this kind of confusion  can lead to disaster at times. at this very critical time.. the reaction of love sometimes turn to be real serious business. the reflection of pain can be in any form ... anger.. unexpected words uttered.. sarcasm..weird reactions.. n of course tears sometimes but all that need to be done is just calm down  and things will slowly rotate off and the good side will slowly take place while the hurting side will fade away.

A short silence.. few heartfelt uttered feelings.. sharing of information... patience.. exchange of love... and things will definitely change... and for sure things will end beautifully with
" i love you baby ... with a reply " me too" after all this is one more side of love.. I LOVE YOU cheers

NO ONE IS PERFECT

What a perception !!!
Sometimes it just make me to wonder if people are just out there and mix around with people
for the appearance one possessed.People are just so heartless and just feel ashamed of one,s appearance.I'm not sure what is so wrong with people who are dark.... so many nick name.. lorry , buffalo,truck and so on!!!!Damn.. is this the right way ? is this the way those morons were brought up by their parents?or is this the attitude that they learn in their moral classes?

What wrong if people are dark? Its not that they want to be dark!!! Its what God has given to them and im sure those dark people are happy with what they have;Some of the famous people are dark !!! Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Ussain Bolt and etc. This is just a few out of hundred of people. So what is the big problem now here peeps?

Next category is Fat / plum people Its very true that Fat is not inherited but also depends on the daily attitude such as food intake.But no matter what . No one have  rights to comment about the size unless you're really care for the person. Even if that is the case, you have the right to say in a polite way . There was once 2 friends bumped into each other after 6 years  and the first question thrown by this one friend to another was " en why u have become SO big???" even without asking hru. I seriously think that is something really bad and wrong way to greet someone.Even , there are "fit" people who feel people who are big in size are not on par with them even to have a photo snap with them Seriously , what is so wrong with this human being????Im not sure which education in the world has taught them that big size people belongs to a community who cannot mix around with others .In addition , being too thin also is a problem where they are recognized as unhealthy people and they are often referred with many nicknames. very sad ....

Next, there is another group of people  who love to make fun of this group of guys and girls who have some extra flesh on their body at certain part ..waist, arm, stomach and etc.Im not sure how to categorize people with such mentality and thinking but definitely not into the group of common sense people.

People are just so obsessed with size and im not sure why. Yes, size matters, we need to take care of our health, proper food diet , proper exercise and this will make us to lead a healthy life style and to remain good size. But proceeding all is the respect that one must show each other. There is no joy by insulting others on their size , colour .. If it is really a sign of concern , put is nice way .. be supportive to them rather than showing off ones' superiority. Even worse is when we insult one purposely knowing that will definitely hurt others.Remember No one is perfect !!! and God treat us the same all the time. It ALL ABOUT US AND  HOW WE ARE TAKING IT !!!

extraordinary

In courtesy of John.C Maxwell

In English language , only five letters separate "'ordinary" from "extraordinary"
The distance between ordinary and extraordinary is shorter than we think.Well, in some areas of life, a second means all the difference in the world. Extraordinary performance is often  separated from an ordinary one by the slightest of margins.Sometimes we just don't understand that when nothing appears to be happening , something is happening  and that will definitely makes a big difference in the "extra"
"W.Clemens Stone stated" There is little difference  in people , but the little difference makes a big difference.The little difference is attitude. The big difference ONLY depends on us!

Attitudes

Characters and attitudes of people play the most important part in our daily life. Different attitudes makes daily life more colorful and interesting . But when the attitude is covered by masks, things become devastated.These bad attitudes become part of our life  where we are tired of encountering them most of the time. Following are some of interesting and strange attitudes that we can come across at any point of time.All that we need to do is.. maintain our good attitude  and be wise enough to act when we encounter following people:-)

1. People tend to ignore us when we are not in the same wavelength as them . Their opinion on us can just change in a second when we don't agree with them?   and we call them friends, buddies, besties at times

2. Sometimes people do ask sorry for their mistake not because they regret but they just want to show their ''so called'' dignity and  want to prove that they are very genuine and honest. These people are even worse than those who refuse to apologize

3. Some people are just so curious where they will never appreciate things that others does for them .
All in their mind is "It is always the opposite party who is responsible to ensure they are in good terms.Reasons given: "I'm busy.. no time..stress.. forgot"

4. At times, people JUST love to insult / brings other down in the form of jokes..After cursing and continuous insult.. they will end up saying  " hey i was joking " . SMART ASS!!!

5. Certain people love to be extra smart when they wan to get good name from everyone so they just love to twist story  when they are with different people  but the best thing is they still manage to maintain good rapport with all and one thing they forget is this will not be PERMANENT

6. There will many times where people just love to help just to show that they are good,. The help given would not be a genuine one but just to show to others that they are too good in every single way

7.People love to treat someone who is good looking , well to do  and also compliment them rather than someone who is very average and  truthful to them

8. Some People are always nice with someone for some reason . As long as the reason is achieved , that would be the end of the relationship..wither with a  complete silence with no reason or it would be a disastrous end for the other person

9. For some people we will become visible when they need something from us.. otherwise invisible mode is always on!!!

10. PeopLE just wanna be so smart and want to look good infront of others and for this they will go to any extend  without thinking and utmostly they will just make us look stupid  and the BEST is they wil make us think that if we are really stupid

LIFE HAS TO GO ON !!!

LIFE HAS TO GO ON

It was a tough period that i have to go through.So many consequences that need to face e due to silly mistakes that I made earlier 

Some prolonging decisions that was not made eventually really stressed me up.I  started to have curiosity on me as a confident person where  I cant control my emotions and ended up showing fake emotions to other. It was good lesson to learn where i need wear seat belt every SINGLE time i get into. No matter what , when you are on road CONCENTRATE. That's all matters to be on safe side !!!

It just so irritating when  you trust someone very blindly . Not everyone will be like us !! our own selves!!1 We have no rights to think like that as everyone have their  own rites to behave as they wish regardless the consequence of the action. All that we need to do is to behave in a way where our action will  not cause problems to others!!! And just don't simply trust people for no reason  and
if we cant keep a secret within ourselves , do not expect others to keep it for us!!!

Always remember the person we love the most can hurt us at unexpected time in an unexpected way . This can be accidental and at times it can be in purpose.Do not take it personally because it will only end up hurting us  and the opposite person don't  feel anything to do with that . See the insult in a way where you can ponder about it positively  and let ourselves to march forward strongly rather than sitting and feel bad on what had happened

This is what i have been doing and it works pretty well. When someone said something bad about us DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY  or even in a joking manner , do not get angry as it will only make you look uglier than before  but just smile ( even though its the HARDEST thing to do at that point of time) .Next , just work on out "bad" things that became the talk of the town if it is really bad.otherwise  just tell " DO I CARE WHAT YOU THINK OF ME" . Life has to go on !!!

lessons learnt!!!

It was a tough week but it came along with a lot of lesson for life that need to remembered all the time...

1. When it comes to the benefit of one's own-self, nothing is bothered and actions are imposed without further thinking  about the consequences

2. People can become talented " actor" and " actress" when they just want to look good in front of  others

3. We can find thousand of reasons  just to humiliate the person that we don't like

4. Do not take things for granted !!

5. people can just change a second when priorities changes

6. Do not neglect anything for a wrong reason and it may give effect in the future.

7. Be strong enough to defend yourself if you are on the right side

8. Don't ever judge people as we can never know what these people up to ..

9. Spoiling ones name is definitely an easy task for people if they do not want their name to get spoiled.

10.There is nothing worse than feeling unwanted

11.The way of respond is more than enough to make things worse

Love is one of the most beautiful thing in the world.Love is something that we treasure.. feel and experience in our daily life. We can define love in our own way.. love for mom, love for dad, brotherly love.. sisterly love , love for friends.. and etc.. Among all this , there is always will be someone whom we feel like sharing our life with them .someone whom we care in a very special way , someone whom we miss everyday even though we see them everyday.. someone we talk to most of the time..
some one who make us feel empty in their absence...it is just SO SPECIAL!!!!!! There is a beautiful saying : A relationship is like a rose, how long it lasts, no one knows. Love can erase an awful past, Love can be yours, you'll see, at last. To feel that love, it makes you sigh, To have it leave, you'd rather die. You hope you've found that special rose, "cause you love and care for the one you choose". Love is very special but nowadays that is not happening very often.Love has been a tool that is used to apply lust ..love is taken for granted for FUN.... love is used as a reason to do unnecessary stuffs...This does not apply to everyone but to a small community of people which eventually affect all. Love is something sweet ... something beautiful...  so it is important to be in love in the best way we can ...and remember ..it is not about falling in love.. but what we do after that .. that matters the most!!!!so keep loving :-) Happy Valentines day :-)

If you think you are the GREATEST person on earth....

If you think you are the GREATEST person on earth....

believe me you are not if you are looking down at others!!! At many circumstances
i have came across people who really love to boast about themselves and the best part is they just love to disgrace others and create a huge gap between them with the society.
This simply means that they are not superior but disgracing themselves without realizing

I have came across few types of people .. They are categorized as people who

1. Love to compare others with themselves
2. Enjoy talking big on their own achievements
3. Embarrassing others on their mistakes.
4. Love to make fun on the physical features of people
5. Judge people unnecessarily
6. Humiliate others just to show that they are "GREAT"
7. Thinks that they are the only person who is correct all the time
8. Tend to say very harsh things but ended up saying " i was joking"

I believe, the blog will reach its limit if i continue writing. I did not mean to find
fault of other people as im not perfect as well. But it is sad to see there are so many people out there who just cant respect others. I'm writing this not because i have become a victim of this
GREAT people but just to remind myself that no matter what, life has to go on and we should not be demotivated and depressed just because someone who don't determine our life saying something about us. Just get rid of the B.S !!( Not Bachelor of Science of course )We cant be the greatest person but we can lead ourselves to live a great life with good values added in

All alone

Most of us are definitely proud of ourselves.. We are happy with whom we are today and all this are JUST results of our past …but each of us are rejected at one point of time.Those rejection maybe caused by many reasons!!! Character, Physical, Gossips, preferences, trust and circumstances ..These reasons are validated accordingly by the person who gave reasons upon rejection.
Some rejections may not even have reasons but the fact is we were rejected!!! MOST of the time it hurts!!! but life have to go on…
there are 2 possibilities!!!!

It is either we have to prove that the fact we are rejected is DEFINITELY WRONG!!!!
or accept ourselves as we are keep going strong …

REMEMBER there will be no one to be with us!!! But we have to keep on walking …………… ALL ALONE

Golden ERA -Gone!!!

All of us definitely would have gone through a enjoyable life in our very primary schools..Age of innocence, life with no troubles except home works ha ha ha… friendship developed at that point of time means a lot to us..But there will be a time… the last day of junior school … an unknown fear in the heart..Thinking the future… future school, new friends, new environment… With all this things in mind.. We were still able to go on and started a new journey in the new environment … the fun that we had there definitely way much different compared to the pervious one!!!With no thoughts of our old friends, teachers and others, we still lived a great life in the new place.. but at one point of time….the beautiful memories of the primary school will shadow us…. a very deep unspoken feeling will cover us and even before we start missing our old friends, we would have realize that we don’t have a a single clue of where are they, what they are doing and what is their number…Whatever it is, Memories are always memories!!!No matter what, at any one point of our time, we would have missed them BADLY!!!